Congratulations! YOU’RE SUPER WEIRD!!! :D

If you’ve ever “grown up” (we all have, I hope 😉 ) or spent any time around the young people of this (or perhaps any) generation, you’ve heard them speak of someone in their group or not and state plainly that he or she is “weird…

The big W… word.

The very notion that someone is “weird” at all CAN be a dangerous idea… – as a side note, I’m talking about discerning that someone might be evil, or wish to do you or other people HARM… we’re not talking about people with undesirable or destructive habits such as pathologically lying, or hardcore drug addict… we’re specifically talking about someone who’s personality, dress, code of conduct, presentation of self, etc appears to the audience as “weird”…

Someone who might fall into this category might be someone with a mental disorder such as aspergers, socially awkward or has OCD…

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Generally, (I fall into the bad category too, but, generally) when I’ve said that someone is “weird” I have meant that said person has a personality trait that I believe COULD be destructive to themselves or to others. Not that they are unwelcome because their personality is flawed, or their presentation of self is disgusting.

One of the dangers of saying that someone is weird is that it promotes the idea that there is a “normal”…

In reality, I think we’d all agree that God, or evolution or whatever you believe in (I personally credit God) created us to be “different” and as we’ve heard repeatedly through our lives “different is GOOD…”

So, what does a young person who has heard that “different is good” most of his or her life glean from the idea that “different IS good, but apparently, I am so different that I’m weird, and in my case weird is not good and not acceptable?” … ???

Again, I think that we could all agree that we were made to be different. Parties and get togethers would be quite boring if we were all very similar. People wouldn’t have a reason to connect, or speak, we wouldn’t have new things to show one another, we wouldn’t be able to show off hidden talents, or resources, the list goes on. I think we’d get bored pretty quickly.

I’ll offer a question to the masses…

So, Robert is weird…so what?

The danger of perpetuating this thought process is that what tends to happen is an act of exclusion…
exclusion

So and so is “weird” so, instead of embracing so and so and tending towards understanding them, talking to them, trying to talk about things that they’re interested in, the tendency is to avoid them, thus feeding more into the person’s “weird”… This can also perpetuate gossip and hurt said person’s feelings, creating a vacuum that could destroy the entire universe… Or, you know…

A person who is excluded and isn’t able to socialize on a normal level has less of a chance of EVER being able to be an adult and socialize at all.

The idea of “normal” in any sense of the word is vastly over-rated. We need the wild ones, the goofs, the backward, the quiet ones, the soulful, the passionate, the aggressive and the kind… We need the dancers, the singers, the artists, the mathematicians, the linguists, the English majors, the writers, the know it alls, and those who just like a quiet video game. We need them all, and IT all to expand our horizons and sharpen our minds.

In order to understand how the world works, we need the world… not one aspect of the world.

When God made the rainbow, He didn’t make shades of one color… He made MANY colors with MANY shades.

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This is one of the many reasons that I’m against schooling, but we’ll get to that some other time (post is not about that, stay on track, Lisa! XD)…

The point is this… Instead of doing the whole “act of avoidance” thing when it comes to someone who you might PERCIEVE as “quiet” or “abnormal” or “different” or “strange”… why not try including them in some way and attempting to help them? As I said up there ^ Exclusion only creates more issues. It ensures that a person WILL NOT grow into anything that is remotely “normal” at all.

Joke with said person, ask said person questions, don’t force or pull them, but attempt to be inclusive. If you can’t see it one on one, see it with a group, etc…

Don’t limit others by limiting yourself.

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