Josh Duggar would NOT be a happy camper with me right now.

I’m a born again Christian (my father was a pastor for three years).

I was homeschooled most of my life, and I waited until marriage to have sex. So, let me just say, I know something of how Anna feels.

No, I could never in a million years know the pain and anguish that she must be going through right now, but I know something of what it’s like to wait until marriage and to feel like a lot of your life depends on what your husband does.

My husband and I were not perfect, but we were both virgins in the “intercourse” sense when we went to the alter. Our wedding night was completely magical.

I don’t believe in sex before marriage (even though I screwed up some in that area by not waiting for EVERYTHING), and I don’t believe in divorce minus a few conditions (physical abuse, which I believe falls under the “if you’re married to an unbeliever who is not content to live with you” and infidelity.)

So, trust me when I say that I would be in a tough position if I found out that my husband had been seeking “one night stands” and such on “Ashley Madison…”

I can also tell you what I’d do if that happened.

I’d divorce him. Outright divorce him.

Not necessarily because of the act itself, but because of the life, lies, and slew of other issues that have surrounded this man.

I defended Josh a little a few months ago when the scandal came out regarding him inappropriately touching his younger sisters. The REASON that I defended him a little is because of his age and because of the fact that when I was 13, I knew that I wanted to be touched, caressed, etc… but I had no CLUE of the concept of the consequences surrounding sex. I experimented a little with other people, and when I was ten or eleven (I can’t remember) I even messed around with someone a little younger than myself. I did NOT understand the consequences of my actions. I knew that this was something probably “not good” or that it probably was “bad” … but I didn’t understand HOW bad.

This however, finds itself in an entirely different category of “low” human being. I could say that I could “forgive” this man… but, stay married to him? Absolutely not. Not at all.

I saved myself for marriage and supposedly “Josh Duggar” did as well. (supposedly)… and you know what? I would be BEYOND devastated to learn this. I would absolutely 100% divorce this man and I hope that she does!

What I also hope is that EVERYONE supports her 100% and prays for Josh as he (hopefully) gets counseling.

This man needs to feel the sting of his actions not just continually be forgiven.

Christian men, (And women)

Christian men, (if you are not a Christian man… please don’t comment on this and rant on me. #1, I’m not talking to you. #2, I won’t post it, and #3, if you read this anyways and felt like something might be off, then you might want to take my advice)

I am going to be blunt, so bear with me…

I would not even CONSIDER dating you if you were a regular watcher of “Game of Thrones”…

If I haven’t lost you yet, then I’m amazed, but again, bear with me.

Maybe, you wouldn’t care that “I” wouldn’t date you. I mean, I’m a middle aged woman who’s married and has several pretty severe health conditions… But, I know several other women (younger, prettier and more SINGLE) who ALSO wouldn’t date you. Or even consider it.

Look, I know that we live in a generation where we’ve experienced harder and harder content on television and in movies since we’ve grown up…

But, unfortunately, that very thing is satan’s plan for our lives with God. His plan is to desensitize us to the evils and sinfulness of this world.

I’m not at all going to say that there isn’t a time or a place for violence or certain story arcs. Lord KNOWS that as a writer, I have often written things that were graphic in nature, or dealt with things like incest or homosexuality, etc.

But, we need to (as Christians) understand the difference between “telling a story” and adding un-necessary dialogue, violence and sex JUST to get ratings or because the world WANTS to see all of that… I’m a pretty much convinced that George R.R. Martin is nothing more than a sick old man based on simply the CONTENT of his stories.

I’ll never forget when my husband began reading GOT… I thought nothing of it because I heard all about it left and right… but one day I picked up the book and to my horror discovered an EXTREMELY crude and vile sex sequence. Understand, there is a difference between a love scene, and something that is just outright graphic and sick We immediately decided that it was time to call it quits on the GOT thing, and honestly, he was about ready to do so himself BEFORE I looked at it.

I feel this way about several OTHER TV shows now days as well, outlining in my blog ”¬† ” how TV mature has become totally and completely out of control. TV mature now show cases MORE graphic sex and sex related things in MANY shows than has been allowed in rated R movies for many many years…


At what point do we say, “Okay, erm… this is porn…”

Because, unfortunately Christian brothers and sisters, that IS what it is… you can say that they call it “TV” or “shows” or you can say that they call it “art”… but it’s none of the above. The intentions behind it are to arouse and cause sinful reactions in you. Hollywood RARELY uses nudity merely to express a situation in which it makes SENSE… it’s done mostly for shock value and to sell tickets because “hey, sex sells, right?” …

It really has very little to do with the content of the STORY, because some of the BEST films ever made before a certain time did NOT often include nudity and graphic sex scenes.

They are becoming common place for our generation and it needs to stop.

How can you tell your son or daughter not to watch porn if you’re busy watching Game of Thrones? Or Orange is the New Black? Or Girls or…

Look, this isn’t even a CHRISTIAN opinion –

I seriously want to ask you to consider what it is that you’re doing with your life regarding this.

Understand that there are some shows that are simply so morally bankrupt that they are not and WILL not help your relationship with God, other people, or your spirit.

I’m not sure that Matt Walsh could have said some of it any better…

so to cap this?

Again… just know… I (nor many many other women) would not even CONSIDER dating you if you watched Game of Thrones.